Self Discipline – You CAN Change
In my last blog, I began my investigation into the premise that self discipline beats motivation. I discussed how I believe we can increase our levels of self discipline, and the real question isn’t whether we can do it, but whether we want to do it. Please understand, I’m no guru. I’m no psychologist and any suggestions I make come purely from my own experience. I’m the first to admit that my own self discipline leaves a lot to be desired, and there are some areas of my life where I have not yet decided I want to bite the bullet. But overall, I’m getting better.
There are three steps I’m going to suggest that I believe have made a real difference for me. If you do nothing else, do the third.
Step 1. Reading
Until I read Mindset, by Carol Dweck, I hadn’t realised it is possible to rewire one’s brain, despite the fact that I’d already started to rewire my own, and I saw it everyday whilst teaching people to drive. Whilst reading her book I had several Eureka moments where Dr. Dweck somehow reached into my life and made sense of my own experiences. Angela Duckworth also did this with her book, Grit
Andy Andrew’s book, The Traveller’s Gift was the first self growth book that really spoke to me and inspired me (and still continues to do so – more of this in a moment) but it was Jeff Olsen’s book, The Slight Edge that more than any of them, crystallised thoughts into actions.If you REALLY want to change, if you REALLY want to improve, then you need fuel and knowledge to do it, and reading the right books can supply this in abundance. Jeff Olsen advocates reading 10 pages of a good book every day. I’ve found audio books amazingly useful as I can read them whilst I’m out walking every day. If you take in loads of good stuff, eventually it will start to have an effect.
Step 2. Affirmations
Before I started my journey to become an online entrepreneur, and started to experience the personal growth that I have, I would have told you that talking to yourself in the mirror and telling yourself that you’re strong, you can do this, is all a load of tosh! Now however, I feel differently. I personally don’t talk to myself in the mirror but I every morning when I get up, and every night before I lay my head on my pillow, I read aloud one of Andy Andrew’s decisions for success from his book, The Traveller’s Gift. Psychologists will no doubt tell us why this verbal repetition helps, something about plugging into your subconscious, I don’t know why it works, I only know from my experience that it does work.
In the three weeks since I started this regular affirmation practise, I have noticed my attitude change. I have cast off my victim mentality and now take responsibility for my destiny. I have started to change the way I think. I’m better at dealing with challenges and approach them more positively. So much so I found myself amazed to think back even two months and remember how wound up I used to get when something on my PC didn’t work as expected.
You don’t have to choose the same affirmations as me. David Goggins (Can’t Hurt Me) has his accountability mirror and that works for him. Find something that suits you, and stick with it.
Step 3. Do Something You Don’t Want To Do
This is the biggy. This one is the real deal. Actually stepping up to do this stuff. Find something that you don’t want to do, at least some of the time, and do it. Every day. Whether you want to or not. Every day. Even when you don’t want to. Especially when you don’t want to.
Start small. Something that is easy to do (or easy not to do), something that you can see will be beneficial in the long term. For me one thing is getting up at 5:30am and going walking – 5-6km each day.
Find a strategy that will help you do it, persistently, consistently, every day. I’m going to say it again; Especially when you don’t want to.
Entrepreneur Tom Bilyeu talks about building up personal credibility with yourself. When I first heard him mention this, I didn’t get it, but I do now. When you step up, every day, even when you don’t want to, especially when you don’t want to, it shows you that you can, and it is this that will breed determination for you to move on and do something bigger, and even more meaningful.
If you really have no idea what to choose or where to start, then start with reading; Jeff Olsen’s “The Slight Edge” at least 10 pages per day, every day, whether you feel like it or whether you don’t.
Especially when you don’t.
Let me know how you do…?
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